Being in Love 2

The second “Love and the Shadow” blog is about how partners get caught up in each other’s shadows, and what to do about this. 

[Alan to her]: You see, instead of being able to sense what is going on in him, you get caught up in your fear of him being angry. Then you project onto him that he is angry, instead of feeling where he is.  What could you say to him in that moment?  Maybe you could just tell [...]

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Being in Love 1

About Love and the Shadow workshop. 

You came here with your partner. Do you realize how rare this is?  Do you realize what you’re giving yourselves in your relationship, and how extraordinary this is? There are countless couples out there who spent this weekend doing all sorts of interesting things, and who maybe didn’t have a moment of being really present with each other. The world has become so used to people being more absent than present that it has become [...]

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My book: who’s running the show?

My friends,

I had wanted this New Year’s Art of Being e-letter to announce that after all these years I had finally finished writing my book. But I hadn’t. The actual story was written months ago, but it still needed about 35 excerpts from my workshop talks, and to dig them out of the 1400 pages of transcriptions now available to me was no easy thing. I had to to it myself. No one else could know why I had written [...]

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Vaclav Havel, Bon Voyage!

Maui, Hawaii, Sunday Dec 18

Martina came down to breakfast this morning in tears. She had stopped to glance at her Czech website on the way, and so learned that Vaclav Havel had died a few hours earlier. I’m not Czech, but hearing the news I felt like I could be. Some months ago I thought, a little too casually, that I would love to meet this man. I am enough in Prague now that I could already have tried. I [...]

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Only an unreal life lacks magic!

To people who live only in the mind, magic is an illusion. To open into your whole being is to experience magic happening in your life. It comes from your ability, in being deeply open, to engage with life’s unbounded mysteries, with that which is not confined to logic and knowledge. Then you see through the illusions that cause so much hurt and fear in people’s lives and in the world at large. When we are really present, magic simply [...]

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Love the Shadow!

Last weekend in Berlin I presented my Love and the Shadow workshop for couples, and added some follow-up homework assignments to help the couples carry the gifts they found in the workshop into their love relationships at home. Today I posted an mp3 recording I made during the workshop on a website. It is all about the assignments. I gave it the title, “LoveShadow…” – at least, that’s what I thought I had done. When it arrived in my mailbox [...]

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A talk at end of The Universal Experience workshop

This is a transcript of my closing words to the people who participated in The Universal Experience workshop (an intimate encounter with your own death), at Waldhaus Zentrum in Switzerland last weekend (Sep 16-18).

“I love how we change the world through changing ourselves. I really know from bitter experience how the world can hammer us down again and again, or just drag us into cul-de-sacs and all kinds of nonsense. When you catch the magic of really BEING HERE, it [...]

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About the new Art of Being Teacher Training

Hi friends,
This is a blog especially for people who may be interested in joining this new training for teachers. It is a kind of supplement to the information on the Art of Being website. Aloha, alan

On completing the Teacher Training you are free to use the material I make available to you – group processes, meditations, guided journeys and so on –  in whatever way serves your work with people. In any case, I encourage you to design your own processes. And [...]

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The death of a good man

I’m touched this morning by the news of the murder in Guatemala of one of Latin America’s greatest and most loved folk singers, the Argentinian Facundo Cabral. I want to share with you a little of what I read today, especially something that he said in an interview in 2008:

“I love life so much because it cost me so much to enjoy it. From the cradle to the grave is a school, so if what we call problems are lessons, [...]

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