If you can’t let go, you can’t be happy

You need to be good in your aloneness so that you can live happily; and too so that you can leave happily when your dance in this world is over! My wish for you is that you can remember this all the way to the last breath of your life.

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The Paradox of Surrender

edited from a talk in June 2012, with members of Alan’s current Body, Heart & Soul Training               

Yes, the paradox again! This is why in the wild phase of the Art of Being meditation I try to give you this one guiding line – to keep your hands, mouth and pelvis moving passionately all the time, and to let that wild expression be your meditation. You’ve heard me say it so many times, meditation [...]

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Jealousy! What to do?

There is only one way to handle your jealousy with integrity, and it is not easy. But then, what people do with their jealousy is not easy either – so much nastiness, and about as merciless as war!… When you finally choose to encounter your jealousy… you learn some really life-transforming lessons that boil down to being whole and happy in yourself.

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Even if it’s been said before, NO COMPLAINING!

Every time you catch yourself, LET GO OF COMPLAINING!… it will drive you a little crazy at first to realise just how much energy you put into complaining… letting go, you may discover more of the great mystery than you might have imagined.

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Soul to Soul!

Alan talking to participants at the end of the Soul-Life workshop in Czech Republic, April 26, 2012

What happened here this last hour is my way of sharing with each of you, without the need for words, what soul-life really is. My wish, my prayer for all of you it that from now on you can more and more let the mystery be dancing in you. Out in the world, ninety-nine out of a hundred times you meet someone’s eyes and [...]

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About Love and the Shadow

Alan talking to participants in Love and the Shadow workshop in Munich, March 30, 2012

 

You came here with your partner. Do you realize how rare this is?  Do you realize what you’re giving yourselves in your relationship, and how extraordinary this is? There are countless couples out there who spent this weekend doing all sorts of interesting things, and who maybe didn’t have a moment of being really present with each other. The world has become so used to people being [...]

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Being “out there” after being in the Body, Heart & Soul workshop

Going back out there to your ordinary life now that the workshop is over, I know you’ll find gifts from being here. Some of them you are already aware of, and others just emerge. You discover yourself being different in certain ways – not just in how you express yourself when you are being intimate, but in all kinds of very ordinary situations too – like being able to hear what somebody is saying that is difficult for you to [...]

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Wounds and Miracles in our Love Relationships

Alan talking to a couple during a Love and the Shadow workshop. 

This is the miracle of The Art of Being circle.  Here you are, cradled in your man’s arms while I’m working with you. My focus is with you, with the pain and the tears that I see in you.  And then suddenly, totally unexpectedly, your man who’s holding you begins sobbing like a child.  It’s magical!  It’s not programmed.  For me this is The Art of Being.  This is how healing happens. Our [...]

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Being in Love 3

On your relationship with tenderness and vulnerability. 

[Alan addressing a woman at the end of  Love and the Shadow workshop]:

Of course, the session that really matters is the one that begins when the workshop ends. There are all sorts of challenges just in the way that regular ordinary life is set up. The most beautiful thing about you right now is how open you are to the tender feelings you couldn’t allow yourself when you came in here on Friday. Going home [...]

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Being in Love 2

The second “Love and the Shadow” blog is about how partners get caught up in each other’s shadows, and what to do about this. 

[Alan to her]: You see, instead of being able to sense what is going on in him, you get caught up in your fear of him being angry. Then you project onto him that he is angry, instead of feeling where he is.  What could you say to him in that moment?  Maybe you could just tell [...]

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