Even if it’s been said before, NO COMPLAINING!

Every time you catch yourself, LET GO OF COMPLAINING!… it will drive you a little crazy at first to realise just how much energy you put into complaining… letting go, you may discover more of the great mystery than you might have imagined.

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Soul to Soul!

Alan talking to participants at the end of the Soul-Life workshop in Czech Republic, April 26, 2012

What happened here this last hour is my way of sharing with each of you, without the need for words, what soul-life really is. My wish, my prayer for all of you it that from now on you can more and more let the mystery be dancing in you. Out in the world, ninety-nine out of a hundred times you meet someone’s eyes and [...]

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About Love and the Shadow

Alan talking to participants in Love and the Shadow workshop in Munich, March 30, 2012

 

You came here with your partner. Do you realize how rare this is?  Do you realize what you’re giving yourselves in your relationship, and how extraordinary this is? There are countless couples out there who spent this weekend doing all sorts of interesting things, and who maybe didn’t have a moment of being really present with each other. The world has become so used to people being [...]

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Being “out there” after being in the Body, Heart & Soul workshop

Going back out there to your ordinary life now that the workshop is over, I know you’ll find gifts from being here. Some of them you are already aware of, and others just emerge. You discover yourself being different in certain ways – not just in how you express yourself when you are being intimate, but in all kinds of very ordinary situations too – like being able to hear what somebody is saying that is difficult for you to [...]

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Wounds and Miracles in our Love Relationships

Alan talking to a couple during a Love and the Shadow workshop. 

This is the miracle of The Art of Being circle.  Here you are, cradled in your man’s arms while I’m working with you. My focus is with you, with the pain and the tears that I see in you.  And then suddenly, totally unexpectedly, your man who’s holding you begins sobbing like a child.  It’s magical!  It’s not programmed.  For me this is The Art of Being.  This is how healing happens. Our [...]

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Being in Love 3

On your relationship with tenderness and vulnerability. 

[Alan addressing a woman at the end of  Love and the Shadow workshop]:

Of course, the session that really matters is the one that begins when the workshop ends. There are all sorts of challenges just in the way that regular ordinary life is set up. The most beautiful thing about you right now is how open you are to the tender feelings you couldn’t allow yourself when you came in here on Friday. Going home [...]

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Being in Love 2

The second “Love and the Shadow” blog is about how partners get caught up in each other’s shadows, and what to do about this. 

[Alan to her]: You see, instead of being able to sense what is going on in him, you get caught up in your fear of him being angry. Then you project onto him that he is angry, instead of feeling where he is.  What could you say to him in that moment?  Maybe you could just tell [...]

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Being in Love 1

About Love and the Shadow workshop. 

You came here with your partner. Do you realize how rare this is?  Do you realize what you’re giving yourselves in your relationship, and how extraordinary this is? There are countless couples out there who spent this weekend doing all sorts of interesting things, and who maybe didn’t have a moment of being really present with each other. The world has become so used to people being more absent than present that it has become [...]

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My book: who’s running the show?

My friends,

I had wanted this New Year’s Art of Being e-letter to announce that after all these years I had finally finished writing my book. But I hadn’t. The actual story was written months ago, but it still needed about 35 excerpts from my workshop talks, and to dig them out of the 1400 pages of transcriptions now available to me was no easy thing. I had to to it myself. No one else could know why I had written [...]

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Vaclav Havel, Bon Voyage!

Maui, Hawaii, Sunday Dec 18

Martina came down to breakfast this morning in tears. She had stopped to glance at her Czech website on the way, and so learned that Vaclav Havel had died a few hours earlier. I’m not Czech, but hearing the news I felt like I could be. Some months ago I thought, a little too casually, that I would love to meet this man. I am enough in Prague now that I could already have tried. I [...]

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