Personality and Being: Part 1 – Fear and Love

In 2002 I was the recipient of the UK’s Kindred Spirit award for my work in the field of personal transformation. It happened at a personally challenging period of my life that brought home to me how important it is to never draw a line under our own journey of awakening and healing.  This is some of what I wrote after the award ceremony in the spring of 2003:  it is about the gap between personality and being. Yesterday, 11 years [...]

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WHERE IN THE WORLD AM I?

How time flies and the world flies with it! A month ago I was on Maui, on the other side of the planet from this Prague apartment where I’m now preparing for my first workshop of the 8-month European season that lies ahead. These past weeks Martina and I have been in Brazil, first blissfully off the radar in a wonderfully old-world village where river meets sea in Bahia, then at Ciranda, Carioca’s Amazonian-like community outside Rio de Janeiro for [...]

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Ride your wave!

I imagine you know these moments when it really matters to express what is going on in you. I call it riding the wave. You feel the wave coming and you know in your soul that you have to surf it, and be willing to let it take you where it takes you. And you never know! Sometimes it takes you to a beautiful place; you carve a beautiful ride on the wave. And sometimes it trashes you and you [...]

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THE TROUBLE WITH THINKING ABOUT IT!

(edited from a talk to participants in the Love, Sex and Shadows workshop for couples in Czech Republic last month)

Most of our schooling – what we call education – can be summed up as “think about it”. Never mind learning to be present in your whole being, never mind really experiencing what is going on; just think about it and be able to talk about it, and have apparently intelligent things to say about it. Then you are considered educated. [...]

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Being here is really liberating!

Some words that came to me one morning as I was guiding the Art of Being meditation with which the workshop day usually begins:

 “This meditation has no meaning if it does not flow into you in your day. Find the trust to live what existence brings you, not what you demand, not the requirements of your limited personality. Then you understand that you are not the controller of what happens. It is only the personality that believes otherwise. [...]

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The Star of Being!

For many people The Art of Being is a star in their inner firmament: a light that shines something of the eternal spirit into their everyday lives, an inspiration to follow their own star wherever it may lead, and so to be guided by the trust and courage that grow in us when we dare to honour the callings of our hearts and souls. The Art of Being is of course deeply interwoven with my personal life. How [...]

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From here to eternity: really!

What a memorable Art of Being vacation! Before I arrived in Corfu I was thinking of exploring some new Mediterranean location for next summer’s vacation workshop. Within five minutes of strolling again through the lovely grounds of Buddha Hall centre on its hilltop above Arillas Bay, that notion evaporated completely.

What could be more perfect than this? And by the end of the week I was as awed as were the participants by the sheer magic of [...]

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DON’T FILL THE VOID; BEFRIEND IT!

(reflections based on a talk with participants in The Universal Experience near Berlin, June 2013)

You only have to endure emptiness and nothingness until you can surrender to it. Then there is nothing to endure! Annihilation – becoming nothing – is what the fear of death is really all about. When you fear the void it is only natural to resist it in every way you can. Your fear itself is the barrier, and because of it you keep yourself busy [...]

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The Spiritual Trip: Getting High or Getting Real?

I had three spiritual experiences during my childhood and adolescence – significant enough that I could remember each of themin full technicolour five and six decades later. But the one that changed my life was the fourth that happened at the end of my twenties. On a beach in California I experienced, for half a minute, the eternal present with all the veils between time and eternity removed. I wasn’t on drugs. I was two weeks into an [...]

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Our feelings are how we find each other

SHE: But I’m so afraid that what I say is going to hurt him!

ALAN: You’re allowed. Okay? And the reason you’re allowed is because you don’t MEAN to hurt him, you’re not trying to hurt him. This is really, really important for all of you to hear. When you hold things back or you’re untrue to yourself because you’re afraid of hurting someone, there’s an incredible step you can take. In your heart, without saying anything [...]

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