LET’S GIVE SEX OUR LOVE!

Sex has been getting a raw deal for a long time. It is in our nature to desire and enjoy it – to love sex the way we love chocolate or champagne. But few of us have been educated to give sex our love.

This is hardly surprising. It’s still not so long since sex was synonymous with shame and sinfulness, and while – at least in western Europe – that holy oppression has pretty well collapsed and sex is more [...]

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A SIMPLE WAY TO MAKE YOUR LIFE SWEETER

Twenty years ago I held an Art of Being camping vacation in the Kalalau valley on the north shore of Kau’ai, Hawaii. On the day we left, we each buried in the sand where the ocean would eventually claim it, something that we wished to leave behind. I chose to bid farewell to the thing that I had inherited from my mother and had carried with me through all the years. No, it wasn’t an object, though heavier. What was [...]

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DEATH DESERVES ITS PLACE IN OUR LIFE

There is a gaping hole in the education served up by our civilization. Even in the most progressive schools the subject of death does not appear on the syllabus. The way we learn about it could not be more accidental or more ill-conceived. Strangely, the only honest and personally meaningful lessons we get come to us as heart-rending misfortune when someone close to us dies. Then we often have to deal not just with our own fears and emotional reactions [...]

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THE TROUBLE WITH THINKING ABOUT IT! Edited from a talk to participants in the Love, Sex and Shadows workshop for couples last week in Czech Republic.

Most of our schooling – what we call education – can be summed up as “think about it”. Never mind learning to be present in your whole being, never mind really experiencing what is going on; just think about it and be able to talk about it, and have apparently intelligent things to say about it. Then you are considered educated. If other people are doing the same – and so many are – they don’t notice that you are [...]

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Alan’s letter about The Art of Being Summer Festival 2016

My friends,

The 2016 Art of Being Summer Festival is just 2 weeks away. Through this springtime that now turns into summer, it has grown and blossomed, as you can see by visiting The Festival Programme  website. There are fresh and updated descriptions of what the main event teachers are offering, and you will also find information about the rich variety of accompanying guides, teachers, musicians and Tantric practitioners who are bringing still more magic to this 5-day celebration of life, [...]

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True Understanding Comes from Experience

 
If you, as well as many others, impatiently await the publishing of Alan’s book, you may enjoy at least this little gem about the importance of experience. It’s one of the inserts (each transcribed from Alan talking in his Art of Being workshops) that every now and then intersect the extraordinary narrative of his life.

 

“Never mind your theory, your philosophy, not even your understanding! As I have known it for myself and witnessed in thousands of people, transformation happens through [...]

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YOU AND YOUR PERSONALITY: Who serves whom?

It can really sweeten your life to be able to distinguish your natural, healthy personality attributes – your ways of celebrating your existence – from those that you have cultivated as a shield against whatever you have grown up to fear, reject and mistrust in yourself and others, or that you wear as costumes and masks so that you can appear to be who you think you are supposed to be. Far more significant is to realize that YOUR PERSONALITY [...]

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THE ONE BEFORE GOD

In the past couple of days I have become unexpectedly engaged in a Facebook discussion about the Israel-Palestinian Gaza tragedy. I find myself moved to say something about my personal guiding perspective. Go back about 13.8 billion years and you arrive at the infinitesimally tiny something coming out of nothing – an explosion of light that was the beginning of everything and has never been less than the entire universe. The explosion itself apparently lasted almost a million years. No [...]

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MUST THE SHOW REALLY GO ON?

Two years ago, on a camping trip in Hawaii, my god-daughter Inanna obliged me each evening to entertain our little circle with a few pages from my book (still awaiting publication under its new title, Dying Naked). Inanna was about to begin her 3rd undergrad year at Harvard. That is significant.

Dying Naked is my deeply personal story, interspersed with things I have said to people in my workshops these past years that have a connection with the [...]

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GOT TO GET ME INTO MY LIFE! Personality and Being, Pt 2

(inspired by a recent conversation with a very nice guy)

The personality games that people play are all rooted in fear and mistrust of being real. Take, for example, the child who learns, “If I’m not a good boy, people don’t like me. When I am a good boy, I get what I want.” The stage is set for Mr. Nice Guy to run the show when he grows up.  Behind the scenes is his fear – of rejection, of not [...]

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